Dating emotional cripple
From a cute investment banker in expensive custom made shoes, to a sexy scuba instructor in a form fitting wetsuit, men with emotional problems are everywhere.
It all comes down to trial and error and if you are unlucky enough to snag a man with emotional deficiencies, you just have to deal with it.
#1 First of all, they tend to be poor communicators.
This means that they are unwilling to share their thoughts and feelings with you and prefer to keep things locked up. Whether it is explaining why he had to cancel on you yet again, or telling you why he just cannot see himself committing right now, he will be full of reasons why he cannot give you what you need.
Your charge: You must find a person who can be truly helpful in reducing the damaging impact of your emotional reactions to your divorce and subsequent life after divorce. Kate’s Story: When I first met my sister-in-law she had been divorced for five years.
The divorce was messy and publically humiliating and she was still angry and resentful toward her ex. Twenty-five years later Kate’s professional life had blossomed but her personal life was much the same.
Unless you are fine with the relationship having an expiration date, keep in mind that you should not turn a blind eye toward these red flags.
#1 Big Talker The first red flag that he is emotionally handicapped is when you start noticing that he is nothing but all talk. Do not mistake big talk with being proud of one’s achievements.
We have all played the tedious game whereby we swoon and fall for the perfect man, bend over backwards to get him to notice you, and realize too little too late that he is completely unavailable emotionally.This is especially frustrating when you really like him and want to take the relationship to the next level.More often than not, emotionally unavailable men will be all up for fun and games but once you start steering the relationship towards becoming something more serious, they go running for the hills.Everyone recovering from divorce needs a Transition Partner.
The one decision you have the most confidence in, picking your TP, is usually a bad one. The culprit is the huge ball of emotional reactions triggered by your divorce that resides in your gut and mucks up your life decisions as we try to adjust to life as a single person after years of marriage. The issues that prevent a rapid adjustment to life after divorce are emotion-based and, as such, cannot be solved logically. Providing reasons why you shouldn’t feel that way only makes matters worse.