Christian advice dating as an adult
When Paul says, “It is good for a man not to touch a woman” (7:1), he is using the word “touch” as a figure of speech that refers to the physical relationship in marriage as representing marriage as a whole.
Thus, he means, “It is good to remain single.” He restates the same idea in 7:7-9, and discusses it at length in -40.
But the married person will have more trouble (the Greek word means “pressure”), and Paul is trying to spare him.
Interpreters differ, and so I can’t be dogmatic, but I think that Paul sensed an impending time of persecution against the church.
Many missionaries send their young children away to boarding schools.
But I believe that if God is calling me to be a missionary and a father, then my children should stay with me on the mission field.
Marriage carries with it certain responsibilities and obligations that take time and effort which otherwise could have been given to the Lord.
Of course, many single people are not as devoted to the Lord as many married people are.
Apparently, in reaction to the sensuality of the culture, some in the church were saying that all sex is wrong. Perhaps they even pointed to the Apostle Paul as their hero.
But it’s much more difficult to be imprisoned or face martyrdom if you’re married, both for you and for your family.
If you sense God’s call to be a missionary to a part of the world where you may likely suffer persecution or severe hardship for the sake of the gospel, you should consider remaining single.
If that isn’t possible, my first responsibility is to raise my children.
So being single means that you will have more freedom in difficult situations than a man or woman with a family will have.But beyond that, how do you know whom God wants you to marry? How can you know God’s will on this important decision?