Chrisian dating books
Without a Christian spouse, one of two things will happen: You will drift away from God or your spouse will become a functional god (more on this later). There is another dangerous mentality in Christian circles I want to address ... "flirting to convert."Look, Christians are called to be missionaries. Laying out guidelines for dating as followers of Jesus could alter the lives of men and women by keeping them out of toxic and unhealthy relationships (and ultimately marriages).Get Spirit-filled content delivered right to your inbox! Most importantly, guidelines and principles for dating could transform lives and shape eternities. And we have a responsibility as men and women of God to be pro-active.It means dating someone who meets the values and goals you have for a future spouse (more on that later). It involves sharing personal struggles and vulnerability. Casual or purposeless dating has no benefit for Christians. We are designed to know why we do stuff and where we are going. Now, please, please, please don't be a freakish weirdo. So if you choose not to get coffee or watch a movie with the opposite sex, then whatever. Don't Date Non-Christians The ultimate purpose of marriage is sanctification (becoming like God). If you love the Cowboys and your future spouse loves the Packers, is it important to work through this before marriage?
It means dating with an understanding of the gospel. Buy a set of Life in the Spirit, get a second set FREE.
Dating with a trajectory towards marriage doesn't mean you only date one person ever. So, my question is, "How does dating a non-Christian aid you in this? If you believe God is preparing you for foreign missions, is it important the person you marry shares this passion?
That would be awesome, but it's not always realistic. "If you are a Christian, God isn't a piece of your pie. Why date someone who doesn't even have God as a piece of the pie? Have a List of Values and Don't Compromise Them If you have no idea what values are important to you in a future spouse, exit the road to marriage at the next off-ramp.
There is an attraction to each other and Christian singles immediately (or soon thereafter) think they have found their soul mate.
Candidly, there is really little more in the Christian dating relationship during this stage than “physical attraction”. There is a temptation for Christian singles to begin saying, “I love you” during this fantasy stage. The emphasis should be upon enjoying each other’s company and building a FRIENDSHIP and refraining from going any further. After 2 to 3 months of this type of dating and it is mutually agreed, the Christian dating relationship can move into an exclusive dating arrangement.
There is a progression that should take place in building a Christian dating relationship.